Reflection 2014

Hi everyone, as the year comes to a close I wanted to reflect on the year and what Iv leant and felt.

1. My kids are getting bigger and older and soon I’m going to have to worry about school, then primary school then boys and cars and college. The years are going far too fast and soon they won’t need me anymore.


2. No matter how much you earn, your expenses will grow along with it and you will feel like you still in the same place since when you started working.

3. Save some money every month, it might seem like a logical thing to do, but so many people don’t save.

4. My father’s death changed my life, I’m not happy yet, I miss him every day and every time something special or meaningful happens, i get sad knowing he would’ve loved it.


5. The pain and suffering the Palestinians had to go through this year is not ok. When I looked at pictures of those innocent children it makes me realize that it so easily could’ve been my children and that thought alone is terrifying.

6. Make goals as a couple, to make your life better. Short term goals every year and then long term goals to work on and improve until then.

7. My fitness journey started along with my family, and as a team we worked out twice a week. I personally could feel that my fitness level improved and I felt more refreshed and stronger.




I think I am very lucky in life and I thank God every day for my amazing husband and what he and I have built and continue to work on. Sigh!




I’m not sure why but I have been in this mood to watch the twilight saga series from the first to the last movie right after the other. Iv been doing this since Friday and I’m not at the part where Bella has just turned.

Sometimes I just feel like getting lost in the movie and dream a little that I’m Bella. Ha ha ha is that a bad thing? I don’t think so. Many woman feel the need to be in dream land just as long as it’s not actioned in real life (or maybe just a little with her husband). 😉

Tell me who is your favourite and do you sometimes to the same?


Friday thanks: how to live

Trust the one who can see these three things in you. Sorrow behind your smile. Love behind your anger & reason behind your silence for beautiful things are not always good, but good things are always beautiful. “Always choose to heal, not to hurt, to forgive not to despise, to persevere not to quit, to smile not to frown, and to love not to hate!” At the end of life, what really matters is not what we bought, but what we built, not what we got, but what we shared, not our competence but our character, and not our success but our significance. Live a life that matters. Live a life that cares.


May we always live a life that will be good in the eyes of Allah Ta Ala and May our children learn from our mistakes and short comings because we are not perfect but we need to strive to live the life that was set out for us, a proper spiritual life Insha Allah

Jummuah Mubarak

Interview: Meet blogger Namreen Sonday



Meet Namreen from the Life and Times of the Fireflies blog, here you will discover everything about her life, what her interests are and what makes her happy. Read what Namreen has to say:


What made you decide to blog?

It was a combination of a passion for writing and some gentle persuasion from my sisters. I was always a closet writer…but my sisters gave me the courage to share it with the world.

Describe your blog?

My blog is often deep and insightful. It explores my relationship with my family and highlights life lessons as I learn them. Sometimes I touch on beauty, food and fashion…but mostly it is a message for my children, in the hopes that they would one day stumble upon it and by chance take the time to read. Hopefully, through this online time capsule, I will still be able to impart my wisdoms to them even after I am long gone.

What is your inspiration in life, style, work, hobbies?

Hmmm…difficult question. I don’t work. I’m a stay at home mom and I don’t take style too seriously. My hobby is writing and I like writing about life. In life I am always inspired to be better today than I was yesterday. To constantly grow and improve.

When you are not blogging, what do you do?

I’m a stay at home mom. It’s definitely not the easiest job in the world, but I am indeed fortunate and privileged to be blessed with the task.

What’s on your wish list for Summer / Christmas/ Special Occasion / or just for the next few months?

To survive the festive season without any weight gain! Lol

What do you splurge on?

I’m generally quite cheap, but I do splurge on my face products.

What are you reading right now?

Nothing! I love reading, but don’t read as frequently as I used to.

Who is your favourite local celeb?

I don’t think I have one. I used to be a major fan of tabloid magazines and celeb news, but I think I’ve outgrown that phase. Celebs are just people after all.

What is your favourite make-up brand?

I am not a huge make-up person and I don’t have an enviable collection, but I do have a growing collection of  Smashbox products.

Define your style

Simple and comfortable with a dash of boho.  Sometimes I like to glam up. But I wouldn’t call myself a fashionista.

What makes you happy?

I strongly believe that the fate of our happiness lies in our own hands. Our frame of mind and the way we approach life is what makes us happy or sad… So, technically nothing makes me happy. I am happy because I choose to be. With that being said, I am most happy when I am surrounded by my family.

How do you define success?

Humility. For me, the more humble, the greater the success.

Your philosophy is…

I think I have too many philosophies on too many topics lol. Try to live life as peacefully as possible. Approach everything with inner peace as your ultimate goal.

Any tips for anyone who wants to start a blog?

The South African blogging industry is not as big as America and the UK so don’t expect to be an overnight success. Be prepared to work hard and remember to stay true to yourself. Authenticity and sincerity is what will draw people to you and make you stand out.

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Interview: Jade Robertson from Just Jade Blog

Jade RobertsonThey say dynamite comes in small packages, and boy oh boy is Jade from Just Jade blog dynamite. Her interests are law and fashion and together makes her pretty much explosive as these two industries on their own is huge. Read below what Jade has to say:

1. What made you decide to start blogging?

I have always loved fashion, the time I started blogging I was in a funk as most people would say, studies controlled my life and I felt as if there wasn’t much more than law keeping busy. I was unhappy, I knew that what I was doing at the time wasn’t the career path that I was meant to be in, so in order to keep sane and happy I started blogging. Clothing and fashion in the broadest sense has always been a comfort and happiness to me, blogging gave me an escape and it helped me with my studies because I wasn’t only focused on law it gave me an interest in learning again so I split my time between the two, fashion being the love of my life and law my chosen career path. I found the medium and I was extremely happy with both.

  1. Describe your blog?

My blog definitely portrays my personal style; it’s a platform for me to reach other people and for people to ask me anything they find worth asking. There aren’t a broad style of posts on my blog, they mostly consist of style posts and events, I find that I enjoy these the most and maybe one day when I’m a makeup guru I’ll start a vlog doing tutorials or step by step makeup looks.

  1. What is your inspiration in life, style, work, hobbies?

I’m inspired by everything, from Kim Kardashian to the weather, I love music and I feel that it says a lot about the kind of person you are. I’m into everything from Michael Jackson to 5 seconds of summer to EDM and Trance, happy music, this inspires me every day, it affects the way I feel, my mood and whether I am able to put my all into something or just be in the mood to give it a go. My biggest hobby I’d say is my boyfriend, or it could be more of an obsession, his the coolest person I know, so funny and always fun to be around, he supports everything I do and his my number 1 fan. Other hobbies of mine are dancing, working out (I just recently became a member of Virgin Active again and I’m loving it), swimming, reading and hanging with my friends and family.

  1. When you are not blogging, what do you do?

I studied law for the past 5 years at the University of the Western Cape (UWC), 3 years of Bcom law and 2 years of LLB. I am currently at the LEAD School for legal practice at UCT, so there’s that lol. Study study study, I also try and spend as much of my free time with everyone I love, so I try and be around Hishaam 24/7 lol.

  1. What’s on your wish list for summer/Christmas/Special occasions/or just for the next few months?

This is a tough one, there are always so many things a person wants and just 3 weeks ago it was my birthday. Seeing as I got everything I want around my birthday and I’m getting an iphone 6 today, let me tell you what was on my birthday wish list instead:

From Hishaam I received – A Paul’s Boutiuque handbag, I love these bags and I’ve always wanted one but I keep forgetting how ridiculously expensive they are. Steven Madden wedges, I’m a Madden Girl through and through, I have always loved their shoes, very on trend, I’ve just seen that after almost an entire year they brought the lace up heel to South Africa, so that’s something for the upcoming Summer/Christmas season lol. MAC Makeup, since I’ve started blogging I have had to up my makeup game, I feel that I’m learning quite well so I received a bunch of MAC for my birthday as well.

Black Nike Sky dunks were on the list too, my mom and dad bought me a pair, I’m quite obsessed and hoping for a white or nude pair in the near future, Lipidol was also a must have for me this season, skin hydration is so important and they have a sunscreen product as well. There isn’t much more I can think about right now, maybe shirt dresses, crochet and incredible hats and sunnies are things I’m looking forward to.

  1. What do you splurge on?

My lashes definitely, I have them done every two weeks and I love them so much, I feel as if I look horrible pale without them and I just can’t do without them.

  1. What are you reading right now?

Thirteen cents. It’s a short novel written by K. Sello duiker, about a homeless Kid Azure whose parents were both murdered, he is black with blue eyes and it’s about his becoming of age and what he has to do to survive the streets of Cape Town, trying to become a better person, making ends meet and changing his life one day.

  1. Who is your favourite local celebrity? Bonang really inspires me but I don’t think she can be classified as just local anymore.

9. What is your favourite make up brand?

MAC! They might be slightly pricey but it’s is definitely worth it, not all products are great for everyone so finding what works best for you helps so much. Their matchmaster foundation is my favourite thing in my MAC life lol

10. Define your style?

My style is modern but I love the classics, trendy and sexy.

11. How do you define success?

I define success as doing what makes you happy. If one day my blog could be my business, that would be true success in my eyes.

12. Your philosophy is?

Be good to others and try and lead a happy life. I believe in karma.

13. Any tips for anyone who wants to start a blog?

The industry is really flooded at the moment and it could be difficult to start up, I was really lucky that I started just before all these blogs started popping up everywhere but if you find that you love it people will recognize and appreciate that. Put in the work and always give your best, eventually you’ll get noticed. It doesn’t always take a lot of money to blog (even though it helps a lot) I’ve done quite well using wordpress and buying 90% of my clothing at Mr Price, good luck!

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Date with my hunk


Mr. Surprised me with a lovely date last Sunday and it was marvelous. We started off with a Thai massage called the Entertainer, which was a full body massage with Thai and aromatherapy elements; so you really get the best if both worlds; and you can find it at a little gem called Nabua Original Thai Massage. I was nervous initially when I got to the spa because I wasn’t sure what to expect and being it my first, a massage causing more discomfort or pain than your typical massage made me nervous. However, it turned out to be the best massage my husband and I have had ever, and that says a lot considering we have been to so many.

They start with the aromatherapy first working their way from your feet to your head and I have to say my therapist was a bit rough around the edges but I didn’t mind it because it somehow worked for her. She hardly could speak English but communicated well regardless and was very friendly and helpful and of course asked in her own way whether I wanted her to put less pressure or whether she was hurting me and when I flinched at the pain she would chuckle and say less? Less? It was quite funny.

We had the option of using oils and the best part though was the Thai element of pulling at my limbs and cracking my toes. At one point She literally sat on my thighs and pulled my torso up by the arms to stretch my top part of my body out. It’s the most amazing feeling ever, weird but amazing! When she massaged my back she was get on the table and massage me, at first I thought what the heck but then when she is massaging you, you can understand why. Ok, I don’t want to reveal too much because you really have to try it for yourself.

To make bookings contact:
Telephone/Fax: 021 425 0016
Cell: 083 713 3120





To top off our marvelous massage, Mr. Took me to have lunch at Truffle restaurant that recently opened. The nice thing about it is that it’s fully halaal. The food is really great, they have a sushi bar which we took full advantage of and the service was amazing.

For reservations:
Call: 021-418 3777






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My father’s prayer: Imaan

Hi all, I received this powerful message from my nanny this morning that I wanted to share with you. If you read my previous posts you will know my dad used to send messages to me very Friday, and named my post as a remembrance to him.

There are times in our lives when our level of imaan is low, our concentration in salah wavers and we feel a drop in our connection with Allah?

We feel like our duas are not being answered, our salah is not having a positive impact on our hearts, and worst of all the feeling that we’re horrible human beings, that Allah doesn’t love us or doesn’t care about us anymore!

Surah Ad-Duha (surah 93) was revealed to the Prophet (PBUH ) to relieve him of these negative feelings and to give him hope, positivity, and the assurance that Allah is with him no matter what.

From it we too can find peace, hope, and a renewed faith in Allah when we go through states of depression, sadness, and hopelessness.

So what does this surah say?

و الضحى🔘
Wad duhaa~
By the morning brightness

This is the first thing you need to hear when you’re depressed: Wake up, look at the sunshine! Everything in life is not doom and gloom– you just have to look up.

🔘Wal laili iza sajaa~
And [by] the night when it covers with darkness

Why is this aayah immediately talking about darkness? As a reminder to us that the night is meant to cover and give us comfort and rest.

Generally when we’re not happy with ourselves, we tend to get into a very bad sleep pattern by staying up at night and sleeping all day thereby worsening our state of mind. This aayah reminds us to use the night as a comfort to ease our distress.

🔘Ma wad da’aka rabbuka wa ma qalaa~
Your Lord ( Oh Muhammad) has neither forsaken you nor hates you.

This is a very powerful verse from Allah telling us that He doesn’t hate us and hasn’t forgotten us– reminding the depressed person that He is always by his or her side!

🔘Walal-aakhiratu khairul laka minal-oola~
And the Hereafter is better for you than the present (life of this world)

Many times when we’re depressed we think: Is this all my life is going to be? Is it never going to get better?

This aayah serves as a perfect answer to those questions, reminding us that life in this world is temporary and that Aakhirah is certainly a better, more permanent place for us than this world could ever be.

This makes us look forward 2 attaining our place in Jannah and helps us look at any problems in our lives as temporary tests of our faith from Allah.

🔘Wa la sawfa y’uteeka rabbuka fatarda~
And your Lord is going to give you, and you will be well pleased.

A promise from Allah that very soon he will give us a massive reward (Jannah) and we will be happy Subhan’Allah

Isn’t this the best thing to hear when you’re sad and fed up with this worldly life and the problems you’re facing? Jumua Mubarak 🌹🌺🌹

Interview: Ziba Styles


Hi there,

Today’s interview is with Fawzia Docrat who is the owner of Ziba Styles and Market Insights Manager at a Global Consumer Goods Company. She currently resides and works in London on a temporarily basis while running Ziba Styles in South Africa.

The Beautiful Fawzia

The Beautiful Fawzia


  • Describe your business?

Ziba Styles is a combination of glamorous necklaces, on trend accessories, high fashion clothing and most importantly personal service offered online across South Africa.

Through my Facebook and Instagram platforms, I wish to empower women with inspiring stories from everyday awesome women. My hope is that Ziba Styles is not seen as just an ordinary fashion store but also reflect my deep passion for female empowerment.

  • Where did the idea for your business come from and what were the initial steps that you took to start your business?I have been working in a corporate environment for the last 6 years. While I absolutely LOVE my job, I have always dreamt of doing something in fashion.   I have been working in a corporate environment for the last 6 years. While I absolutely LOVE my job, I have always dreamt of doing something in fashion.I started Ziba Styles in May 2013 as a pop up store in Durban. I was initially really shy and would admit that I did not do a great job with marketing the pop up. It still surpassed my expectations and I continued to sell to friends, family and colleagues.Being a naturally shy person my greatest fear was always people interaction and I feared how I would be perceived on social networks, which is why it took me 7 months to actually promote Ziba Styles on Facebook. Facebook completely evolved how I conducted my business. It provided me access to women across South Africa. In May 2014, a year after I started, I plunged and joined Instagram, which has helped push my brand even further and has truly surpassed any expectations I have had.
  • How did you obtain investors or sponsors for your venture?

Ziba Styles is fully sponsored by myself. I started very small and I continue to reinvest profits into capital to help grow my business.

  • What motivates you?

My greatest motivation has to be my interaction with the lovely women I have met through Ziba Styles. I do not like to refer to Ziba Styles buyers as “customers” or “clients”. A lot of them have now become my friends, and since I started, I have interacted with so many interesting woman, each with their own personal story that continues to inspire me. These women fuel me with positivity and demolish any fears I initially had on how I would be perceived socially.

  • How do you define success?

This is a really good question and something I continue to ask myself.

If I had to rewind to a year ago, I would definitely not have expected that I would be at this point today and still running Ziba Styles, so where I am today would have been considered successful! I have now completely re-evaluated what success for me looks like. To me it is when I get a message from someone after making a purchase telling me that they love their purchase. This is my success!

  • Who has been your greatest inspiration?

Praises to God, I was brought up by strong independent women so I honestly did not have to look far for inspiration growing up. I could not be more proud of the three special women in my life who have fuelled my growth.

My granny, who although only schooled until Grade 2, she taught herself English and how to read and write and went on to run a business until the age of 77.

My Mum for teaching me the value of an education by going back to becoming a full time student at the age of 40 and obtaining a Law degree with 4 young kids. She has also been voted lawyer of the year for two years and featured in Destiny Magazine.

Lastly, my sister who has taught me the value of owning a passion for what you do. She is a Doctor by profession and a Surgeon in the making while being a mom to a two year old.

I must also admit that I am completely obsessed with our South African history and the strong men and women who have revolutionised this country (most go unnoticed)! Ahmed Kathrada is one of my personal heroes.

  • To what do you most attribute your success? What would you say are the five key elements for starting and running a successful business?  Be relevant
  1. My 5 key elements are:
  2. As I temporarily live out of South Africa I had to put the trust in someone else to take control of all on the ground work. I am fortunate to have Munirah Jassat who has helped me to continue running Ziba Styles while I am away.
  3. I do not think I would have been able to continue doing what I do without the beautiful ladies who have supported me even if it is just through a “like” on my post. Without them, I would have closed a long time ago and I would have allowed my fears to get the better of me.
  • Be Personal
  • Be interesting
  • Be grateful
  • Be Human – (I say this because, yes I did have fears in the beginning and I still do today, it never goes away but we are all human and this is what keeps us relatable)
  • In one word, characterize your life as an entrepreneur. Passionate!!
  • What are some of the biggest mistakes you’ve made and how have you learnt from them?I don’t necessary consider this a mistake, but my doubts often got the better of me. I often wish I had shifted on to social media as soon as I started!  I don’t necessary consider this a mistake, but my doubts often got the better of me. I often wish I had shifted on to social media as soon as I started!
  • What are your hobbies? What do you do in your non-work time?

Ziba Styles is actually my part time job. I continue to work in corporate and earlier this year I was offered an amazing opportunity to transfer with my company to London. My job is extremely demanding so I have a very fine balance between the both but I am really lucky to have Munirah supporting me in South Africa as well as two stockists, Tasneem Vally in Benoni and Salmah Bayat in Cape Town.

Living in London has been great and every weekend offers something new and exciting to do! My husband and I love going to the theatre and visiting new places.

  • Your philosophy is?

My Ziba Styles and life philosophy is simple: Treat people as how you would want to be treated!

  • What’s to come for Ziba Styles?

I honestly get anxious thinking about everything that I want to do with Ziba Styles!! Currently time is my biggest barrier but I am proud to announce that in 2015 my website will be up and running and will include a blog segment where I will share my complete lifestyle inspirations.

I have more exciting collaborations coming as well so watch this space!

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So the girls were accepted at a crèche that is pretty close to our home and we had the pleasure of going to visit on Thursday morning; the girls had so much fun. Zia was in her element, she had no problem blending in and making herself comfortable, while Tazkia took some time warming up to the surrounding. The moment she saw the kids playing with play doh, the tears cleared up and she was fine. The principle agreed to let them come around in December so that in January the transition will be effortless – well hopefully.